Misplaced rant

This belongs on fetlife, but it's not worth the drama it would cause there, so it's going here so I can still vent.

"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."


Isn't that how the saying goes? Or that golden rule of do unto others...?

I understand the need to want to know everyone else's business, as humans we are naturally curious, and in a community as tight knit as barrie (which it is tight knit, whether you're part of the zoo crew or not, your in there somewhere), it's bound to happen and get around who you are, and what you do, how you do it, etc.

You get a reputation fast in a city as close as barrie. Sometimes good, sometimes bad, and over all irrelevant as long as you have a close standing group of friends that know the truth and can either vouch for you, or ignore the rumours and words being spread.

Rumours though. There's a vicious thing. I get the need and want to start drama, and the fun it can bring to poke buttons and see what the results are. But why feel the need to try and interfere with something that is no one else's business but those involved?

I don't quite get the advantage to trying to sabotage something that hasn't even happened yet, with lies and speculation. To be told out of left field that I'm trying to trip someone into bed is ludicrous, offensive, and has no foundation in the truth.

I'm a natural flirt, when I'm comfortable with someone I tease, and flirt and joke around. This doesn't mean anything aside from that. I can point at a dozen people in the community (more), who have the same nature to flirt and joke around with their friends. This hardly means they sleep around. Hell, there's not three people in the community that could step forward and say either 1) I've slept with them, or 2) I've legimitately have tried to sleep with them (in a serious attempt).

I know this, because there's two people in the community I HAVE slept with. One isn't even in the country any longer, and I'm the one that introduced the other TO the community, and she's presently inactive.

So I'd really like to know where I garnered enough of a reputation through play parties and partners, to have earned the disregard to be told that when I happen to like a girl, and enjoy an evening hanging out with her, that my immediate goal is sex. In this lifestyle of ALL places, one would think we could escape that bullshit stigma of all that is on a man's mind is a piece of ass.

Yes this is a rant. No this doesn't matter in the end, because what it comes down to is, no harm, no foul. Aside from being insulting on the part of whoever said something, people have better sense than to believe everything they hear.

At least some people do, anyways. I know a few that don't too.

I'm not looking for justification, or a reason someone contrived to think they were protecting someone else, or wanting to get revenge for some imagined slight... Hell, I'm not even looking for sympathy, empathy, or anything else. This is a rant for me, by me, to get it out there, and to simply say... Grow up.